The 90/10 Gap by Michael Winner/6/23/2023 I had to take my son to Bnei Brak yesterday for a meeting. It's not my favorite trip, since its usually 2.5 hours each way with bus/train switches. On the way home, the stop before we needed to get off to catch our second bus, the bus driver announced that the main thoroughfare has been completely closed down, and he's going to have to go around to reach the final destination, skipping the stops in between. So, we literally crossed the country (only in Israel can you say that), made a huge loop, and got off much farther north than where we were supposed to be. In theory, we could catch a bus home, however, no further buses were going home, since home was shut down since the main road was shut down.It turns out that the Druzim in our area were protesting for several hours, because their family members in the Golan were protesting, because the huge wind turbines that were built up there were finally activated. Yes, you read that right. I'm still trying to figure it out.I'm sure there's some Gemara somewhere that says that if the State of Israel doesn't have some mass protest for even one day, by one group or another, it's a sign that Moshiach is on his way.Five hours later (thankfully, that was all), we got back."And you should not be like Korach and his congregation…" (Bamidbar 17: 5).Rav Pincus points out that this argument between Moshe and Korach was a "once in history" argument. On one side, you have Moshe, who was 100% correct, and on the other side you have Korach, who was 100% wrong. If you need proof, see the end of the story.But after that, every argument between two people, is not a 100% vs 0%. Each side has some truth to it. It could be 90% truth vs 10% truth, but it will never be 100% vs 0%.Once a friend of mind had a side business and somebody else in the neighborhood wanted to open up a similar side business, which could possibly hurt my friends. So, he went to speak to him about it, and the other person didn't agree with him. However, he did understand where my friend was going, so he either agreed to or suggested to go to a Beis Din to render judgment. So … they went. And in the end, Beis Din agreed with my friend and said that the other person was not allowed to open up his business. When I asked him how the other person took it, he replied, "He accepted it without a problem, and he even drove me home afterwards." All our legal issues should go so smoothly.The key is to have the ability to see what the other side sees. Even if you don't agree with it, it's important to still be able to see it. My wife recently listened to a talk given by some psychologist on this. And she called it "Intellectual Honesty," something that the world is severely lacking.Let's talk about the divide in Israel currently. Right now, the media and left-wing politicians have been pushing anti-religious sentiment. Really, in many ways, this is not new, but it's certainly more than usual, from what I understand. Why? Because they say that the religious need to risk their lives just like the non-religious and join the army. The religious need to start working higher paid jobs. The religious need to start going to universities. What they don't understand is that most of the tzedakah organizations out there that cater to all, are run by the religious. They don't recognize that most who serve in the army don't risk their lives, like Yair Lapid, who bravely served as an army news reporter, nearly receiving several paper cuts in the process. Or my neighbor, whose daunting saxophone playing in the army band, saved this country somehow, and helped boost his career.On the other side, when the religious ask for more money for education (rightly or wrongly), they don't understand why the secular population doesn't like it if many boys schools don't teach the core curriculum. They cannot understand how the secular can't understand how learning Torah is important to Jewish society. Perhaps they cannot understand why people like my other neighbors who have a son in the paratroopers feel, when they see other men at the same age, walking calmly to yeshiva. Nor can they understand why the secular population feels threatened, even when the religious are put on the defensive.Even if there are disagreements, the important part is to be able to put yourself in somebody else's shoes to see how they see. I'm not saying one should give up on their beliefs. However, by doing so, different tactics could be used to achieve the same goal, yet keep the peace.Of course, this will not happen on a societal level, until all politicians and newspaper editors are lined up on a wall and executed. However, on a personal level, it's certainly a wonderful thing to remember. The other side might be wrong. Perhaps you are 90% correct. However, they still have 10% on their side, and you need to understand that 10% to help bridge the gap.Have a wonderful Shabbos!