Ki Seitzei

Does anybody remember “The Blues Brothers”? Remember how at the end of the film they were surrounded by thousands of officers from every branch of federal, state, and local law enforcement (don’t forget the Illinois Nazi Party)? That’s what the street next to ours looked like this past Shabbos.

We are friends with a couple who many say are special, but we say are crazy. Besides their own children, they are fostering two children who are . . . well, if I say “mentally challenged,” that would be nice (it’s a family custom, it seems, to take in these children; she also is trained in working with them). One of them is a seven-year-old severerly autistic and brain-damaged boy. Honestly, he’s a cute kid, but has no "seichel" whatsoever. This past Shabbos, the husband had to be out of town with this two oldest children, so she was left alone with her other children and these two foster children. One of her children went to their neighbor's, and despite the door being super heavy, this seven-year-old, who has incredible strength, opened it and flew out. She heard this happening and went to chase after him, but he quickly disappeared.

This was at 1 p.m. Shabbos day. People in the religious community started hearing of what happened a few hours later (she didn’t make it so public at first, since she thought she would easily find him). By the time it became public, the police became more and more heavily involved and practically everybody with a kippah on their head, from all streams, were combing the city. The rav came out and announced that even if you have to break Shabbos, you must in order to find the child. Hundreds of the religious community were out, along with a helicopter and drone (the kids loved those). Even the Border Police stationed outside of the city got involved. I got the idea of flagging down a few cabs from different companies so they could call other cabs so they should keep their eyes open. You should have seen the look on the drivers faces when I, dressed in my Shabbos clothes, was telling them to pull over. :)

In the end, 30 minutes before sunset, somebody from the community found him, half naked a kilometer-and-a-half away from his home. One of the officers kept saying to the mother, “You have an amazing community here. Amazing! They all came out, got organized, and helped out!” The police recognized that they didn’t have the manpower to do it themselves, and there was close work between us. My son, when we were looking together, received a few waves from officers passing by in their cars, and even several secular residents helped to get involved when they felt the "power" of the community at work.

If this happened to somebody secular, the police would have gotten involved, a few friends would have posted the photo on Facebook and help out with the search. But nothing would have occurred that matched this. Here, HUNDREDS of people were searching, and wives were bringing out bottles of water and snacks to help out. Most did not daven mincha at all or eat the third meal for Shabbos. In the end, it was a very big kiddush Hashem with a happy ending.

Except for one man. The head of the local Hatzolah. He was away that particular Shabbos and was VERY upset that they had to lose this child on that particular Shabbos when he was away. For him, it’s a dream come true to help organize and run such an operation and he missed out! :)
Every year, I usually receive a small dose of help from Above on something. Last year, I wasted it on correctly guessing how far along my wife was in labor when we arrived at the hospital. This year, thankfully, I received it when I was learning. So, this is an original dvar Torah. True or not? I have no idea. It sounds good and even if it’s not true, it’s not one of those “Oh! According to my calculations, there are really EIGHT AND A HALF gods!” so you won’t really be burning for reading it.

The Gemara (Shabbos 23b), asks, if one has enough money for only a candle for Chanukah or only a candle for Shabbos, what should he buy? It then answers a candle for Shabbos, because of Shalom Bayis (peace in the home). It then asks, if he had only for Kiddush or candles? Again, Shabbos candles, because of Shalom Bayis. Then, it continues and says that somebody who lights candles (Shabbos or Chanukah) regularly, will merit children who are Talmidei Chachamim (scholars).

I was confused by this, since many light candles regularly and do no merit children who are Talmidei Chachamim. So, I gave thought to it and have a small theory, which I would like to share.

We see that the Gemara clearly equates Shabbos candles to Shalom Bayis. There are many different reasons for it, the main one given is that there is light in the house on Shabbos, and confusion does not reign free. For whatever reason, when we say Shabbos candles, we are also saying Shalom Bayis.

PERHAPS, the Gemara is saying that somebody who regularly has Shalom Bayis, will merit Talmidei Chachamim. Of course, this is not the only ingredient and there are many different factors, but it is acknowledged that many times when children leave the religious world, there are issues at home (again, not all the time, and possibly not most; I don’t know, but Shalom Bayis does contribute to such things).

I then saw that the Bach (Orach Chaim 263:1) asks on this Gemara: it seems that from this Gemara, that lighting candles is not obligatory and the reward is children who are Talmidei Chachamim. However, we see further on, that it is really an obligation to light. So, if it’s an obligation, why did this Gemara word the promise in such a way as if it were not obligatory? He answers that if a person lit Shabbos candles, he did his (or really her) obligation. But, if they do it in a proper, “mehudar” (extra careful) way, they will earn this promise.

As a side note, my Rosh Kollel asked when I showed him this, “What does it mean ‘mehudar’ when lighting Shabbos candles? Okay, using olive oil instead of wax candles, perhaps, but what else is there to be ‘mehudar’ about? " This question only adds fuel to my theory, that perhaps we not talking about only lighting candles.

So, let’s rephrase what the Bach was saying with my idea: If a person does the mitzvah of Shalom Bayis (by lighting the candles), he did his (or really her) obligation. But, if they do it (Shalom Bayis) in a proper “mehudar” way, they will earn this promise.

It’s hard work to have Shalom Bayis, but to do it in a mehudar way? That takes even more work, effort, and teamwork; but perhaps, when the children see and feel the atmosphere of love and respect between their parents, they will be empowered in their Torah observance.

Just an idea.

Have a wonderful Shabbos!

Michael Winner

Finally, things are starting to cool down around here.

For the past month or so, we’ve had nothing but 90+ degree weather. In fact, on one particular day, it hit 104 in the shade and over 120 in the sun (the thermometer did not go higher than that). Finally, we’re at a nice comfortable 87 degrees, and I for one, am looking forward to a nice, cool, and rainy winter.
The Rambam, when describing the Jewish soldier, writes, “’Which man is afraid or fainthearted (he should turn away)’ (Devarim 20:8) – this is to be understood literally. It refers to a person who doesn’t have the strength of heart to stand in the thick of battle. But once a person enters the thick of battle, he should rely on the One Who is the Hope and Savior of Israel in times of trouble; and he should know that he is going into battle over Hashem’s Oneness.

“He should place his life in His hands and not fear or be scared. He should not think of his wife or his children, but should wipe their memory from his heart. He should turn away from all matters and focus on the battle.

“One who starts to think about things in battle and makes himself afraid transgresses a negative commandment . . . Furthermore he will be responsible for all the blood of the Jewish people . . .”

During the war in Gaza last year, the commander of the Golani Brigade was wounded by shrapnel all over his face from a rocket attack. He was taken to the hospital, and of course, against doctors orders and protests, left the hospital to resume command before he could heal. He declared that if he had a bus, he would have taken more soldiers with him who wanted to join him back at the front. So, within a few days of being wounded, the colonel was back in action, shaved head, wounded face, looking vicious, leading his troops into danger once again.

During the months of Elul and Tishrei, we are in a midst of a vicious battle. The “D-Day” of the year, if you will. Not only our personal future, but the future of the entire Jewish nation, is at risk. If we break down, we can lose everything. If we strengthen our resolve to fight, we can be victorious and help bring the nation to victory.

We have now completed the first two weeks of Elul, and two more remain. We shouldn’t sit back and say, “Well, I wasted the first two weeks, what good is everything else going to be?”. Rather we should sit and figure out our own “order of battle” that we can do to prepare for Rosh HaShanah. By putting all distractions to the side and making a plan to really change, we can successfully swing the battle in our favor.

Have a great Shabbos!

Michael winner

It’s all very exciting. Starting Rosh HaShanah, the Shmittah year begins (our second round through). Simply put: Every seven years, farmers in Eretz Yisroel are commanded to stop working the fields. Any produce that comes from those fields, has kedusha (holiness) to it, cannot be sold or traded, and must be treated as if you were treating a siddur. There are many laws concerning Shmittah that one needs to learn and understand, because for the next year and a half (Shmittah fruit is widely available after Shmittah ends), one's “eating life” will be turned upside down.

For Bnei Torah living in Yerushaliyim, Bnei Brak, or other major frum centers, produce is available throughout the year. One needs to note where it came from, such as outside of Eretz Yisroel (the food has no kedusha), if it’s from the previous year (no kedusha), if it’s from Otzer Beis Din (where a Jewish court takes over a field and distributes the food (at cost to deliver it, and which definitely has kedusha), if it’s Arab produce (big argument dating back several hundred years, some hold it does have kedusha, some say no . . . whatever you want to do . . . our family holds "yes"), or if it was grown, farmed, and traded against halacha by Jews on a Jewish-owned field, in which case could possibly make your kitchen not-kosher.

On top of that, any fruits or vegetables that have kedusha, or any food that has been cooked with such fruits and vegetables, must not be thrown in the garbage or on the floor, etc., until they lose that kedusha (i.e. they begin to spoil). Nor can it be sent outside of Eretz Yisroel (since it’s degrading the fruit). So, it’s a whole change in food lifestyle for the next 18 months or so.

This year will probably be more complicated, given that none of the stores have a reliable kashrus certificate concerning fruits and vegetables. I believe we’ll be able to buy fruits from them up until Purim time, but vegetables, not. From what I understand, the entire frum community will be able to order once a week their vegetable supply from outside sources. Unfortunately, this system is in place now (since they have much better prices), but the quality of the vegetables has what to be desired (hence, why buy from them if they are going to spoil in three days?).

Well . . . we’ll have to see. I’m looking forward to it!
In the Musaf prayer for Rosh Hashanah, we conclude with the blessing, “Baruch Attah Hashem, zocher habris.” We ask that Hashem should remember the bris (covenant) between Him and the Jewish nation, and that this remembrance should save us from judgment.

Rav Shimshon Pincus asks, “What is the meaning of bris?” And quotes the Sefer Yetzirah to answer:

“Stop your mouth from speaking and your heart from thinking. And if your mouth runs to speak, and your heart to think, return to Hashem. About this . . . a bris was established.”

The Vilna Gaon defines a bris as follows. If a person has a friend whom he loves very clearly, and he wishes never to part from this friend for eternity, he makes a covenant with him. How? He takes from himself the thing that is most precious to him, and gives it to his friend. In this way, he is guaranteed never to forget about this friend.

The Torah (Shemos 34:27) writes, “According to these words, I made you a bris.”

Hashem wished to strengthen the relationship with us, so he gave us something precious to Him – the Torah. By maintaining the Torah, we are maintaining and guarding something precious to Hashem and therefore maintaining this bris. How do we properly keep the Torah? “Stop your mouth from speaking and your heart from thinking . . .”

When we take our thoughts and speech, two things that are very precious to us, and we dedicate them to Hashem, we are giving over OUR precious objects for Hashem’s keeping.

May we merit to use this month before Rosh HaShanah properly!

Have a great Shabbos!

Michael Winner

This past week, two friends and I went out for a few hours in the middle of the night to catch the annual Persiod Meteor Shower. Our group consisted of the Astronomer (me), the snotty-yet-extremely-bright Englishman, and the obnoxious-yet-extremely-bright Israeli, whose parents are American and owns a car.

I started work early to get in my ‘quota’ and we left around 11pm. Our first stop was further up north, right outside an Arab (Christian) village. At that point, the Englishman started to get worried about this whole ‘not wanting to die’ business. We were fine, since we understood that there is a difference between Christian and Moslem Arabs, and he was simply being a wimpy Englishman. We finally came to an open field away from the lights and took out our maps and blankets. After a bit, the Englishmen said, “I think I hear something in the field…”

“Nonesense!” cried the Israeli, “You chutznakim (those who were born outside of Israel) are afraid of every little sound… it’s just the electricity from those wires”

After a while, the Englishman repeated his warning, and the Israeli repeated his insults. I listened carefully and also heard the sound. As the Israeli was railing into us for our “wimpyness”, I threw a rock into the brush where the sound was coming from. I was rewarded with a loud: SNNNNOOOORRRRT!

We all went quite.

We pulled out a flashlight and saw the eye of a wild-boar staring at us, to which the Israeli said, “Okay everybody… into the car… QUICKLY!”

We, thankfully, found another place not so far way, enjoyed a nice night out without wives, and returned at 3 am. I began my day two and-a-half hours later. With only a twenty minute nap in kollel, I surprisingly had a good day in learning.

Lesson learned: stay away from wild-boars. Even if you’re Israeli.
“A perfect and honest measure shall you have, so that your days shall be lengthened on the land that Hashem, your G-d, gives you… Remember what Amalek did to you on the way when you were leaving Egypt…” (Devarim 25:15-17)

Rashi explains why the warning to have honest weights (read: business ethics) and the reminder of Amalek’s attack on us, are right next to each other: “If you were untruthful about measures and about weights, be worried about provocation by the enemy”.

Simply put: if you cheat in business, you will suffer.

So, I scratched my chin and asked, “But why AMALEK?” The Torah has so many fun ways to punish us, why specifically is Amalek chosen as the punishment for poor business ethics?

If I made be so bold, I would like to suggest the following. The core of Amalek is ‘doubt’. Their main weapon is to sow seeds of doubt concerning our relationship with Hashem, into our souls. When we cheat in business, we are showing a lack of trust in Hashem. After all, the whole ‘reason’ for cheating is because Hashem obviously cannot provide for me, and therefore, I need to make it up myself somehow. It’s due to our lack of trust in Hashem, that we are punished with Amalek which personifies that particular trait.

With this lesson in mind, we should always do our best to be honest in our business practices, never over charging, never saying white lies, and always being straight-forward. THAT is the Torah’s key for success.

Have a great Shabbos!

School finally began this week!

For Rochel Leah, it was a big move. Now she’s in Kita Aleph (first grade), complete with school uniform, “Hello Kitty” backpack, which is the size of a tank (What IS “Hello Kitty” anyhow?), and homework to boot.

Chaim is in … I guess you would call it “preschool” in America… whatever the level is before Kindergarten. And Tova is in pre-pre-preschool at somebody’s house.

Finally. Normalcy.

One of the things that is nice to see is the different upbringing our children are having than what we had. They’re Israeli, not American (they’re also frum, when their parents were not). When a new American boy came into Chaim’s class last year, the teacher asked him to speak to the boy in English to make friends. Chaim refused and explained, “I speak English ONLY in my house. Here, I speak ONLY in Hebrew”. Rochel Leah has made a group of friends herself, conversing in rapid-fire Hebrew, making it impossible to know what she is talking about. Tova, being third inline, is possibly the most Israeli. She has a deeper voice when speaking, understands (not speaks) both languages pretty well on her 1 ½ year old level, and has no fear of anything (DON’T cross her). All in all, it’s an interesting thing to experience, knowing that most of the things you experienced when you were a child, they will not; and most of the things that they will experience, you never did. Completely different culture, completely different way of life.

Okay! On to Torah!
“For Hashem, your G-d, walks in the midst of your camp to rescue you and to deliver your enemies before you; so your camp shall be holy, so that He will not see a shameful thing among you and turn away from behind you…” (Devarim 23:15)

Says Rav Zilberstein, “The Torah is telling us very plainly that if we are afraid to walk in the street or ride on buses because of suicide bombers; if we shudder every day at the news of another young father or mother struck down by illness in the prime of life; if we feel as though the tragedies surrounding us are impossible to bear; then we should know that this is all because we have not managed to make our camp holy.

“We look for all sorts of reasons why these pains are coming upon us; we look for help and segulos in all sorts of places; we beg and pray for salvation; but we forget the most important thing: ‘So that He will not see shameful thing among you and turn away from behind you’”

What is that ‘shameful thing’? A lack of modesty. What is modesty for a woman? Shaarei Teshuvah writes that a woman has to dress in a way that will not cause people to look at her. The Vilna Gaon writes that just as Torah study is most important for a man, modesty is most important for a woman. Just as the yetzer horah focuses his energy to keep men from learning Torah, so too does he focus his energy to keep women from being modest. Continues Rav Zilberstein, “We can understand, therefore, why the tests in the area of modesty are so difficult, and why even a woman who regards herself as “frum” or “chareidi” can walk in the street in a way that causes hundreds or even thousands of people to sin by looking at her”

Being that we’re living in the middle of a very secular city, there are certainly plenty of women that have no concept of modesty. They walk around wearing their lack of clothes, in order to catch people’s eyes (then they get insulted if somebody stares at them or treats them as if they were a piece of meat), and frankly, they are showing to the world that they are people who have little inner confidence in themselves.

My wife remarked on this on Shabbos. There are a few “perks” you get for being religious in such a city. First off, you always know that people are watching you and are going to judge the entire religious world based off of your behaviour. Second, you have to wear clothes. And because of this, you not only LOOK “put together”, but you FEEL “put together”. When you are dressed in a modest fashion in the heat of the Israeli summer, you are saying, “I’m in control of myself and I don’t need to show my body to the world to make me feel better about myself”

Concerning modesty, men have the obligation not to look and women have the obligation not to show. When both sides are abiding with “their side” of the deal, then you will have a camp which is holy.

Have a great Shabbos!

This is a whole new world.

One of the first things we have learned is that our kosher options are very limited. For example, we have no butter.

The government runs its own kashrus organization, known as the Rabbanut. It’s no secret that the Rabbanut generally keeps a relatively lower standard of kashrus compared to other organizations. None of the Ultra Orthodox rely on it, and many of the Religious Zionists do not either. Instead, we use the Mehadrin kashrus organizations. There are several of them, some are relied on by all, and some are relied on by some and not others (ask your local rabbi). All agree though, that these Mehadrin organizations have a higher standard of kashrus. While Rabbanut is not considered treif, it’s still not relied upon.

So… that puts us in a pickle. In Jerusalem, with such a heavy religious population, getting mehadrin products is not a problem. Here, we are extremely limited on what we can buy. And just to make things extra fun, many products that are mehadrin in Jerusalem aren’t in the north, or aren’t even kosher. So, you have to be careful to check everything before you buy it.

On top of that, you have issues with fruits and vegetables.

In Eretz Yisroel, any produce grown here, must have trumah and maiser taken from it. In the time of the Beis HaMikdash, it was given to the Kohen and Levi. However, since we don’t have a Beis HaMikdash yet, we cannot give it do them. So we have to go through a procedure to “redeem” the holiness that is within the produce. In Jerusalem, every kosher store already has trumah and maiser taken from its produce before it’s sold, so you can buy it and eat it immediately. Here, with the exception of one major store that’s not in walking distance, and a small food store, which has limited produce, you have to take the trumah and maiser yourself before you eat it. I have my zucchinis ready to go in the kitchen. My first time I’m able to do the mitzvah!

Okay, I’m sure you’ll hear much more in the future, including my upcoming shopping trip to the local Druze village. For now… on to Torah!
“If a man married a wife” (Devarim 22:13)

Rav Yitzchok Zilberstein in his sefer “Aleinu L’Shabei’ach”, cites a story he heard from a marriage counselor. The counselor was dealing with a man who was clearly a devoted husband and father who did everything in his power to help his wife and children. However, he felt that his shalom bayis (peace in the house between husband and wife) was not so good. The counselor recognized that it was a lack of self-esteem on the husband’s part that was affecting the marriage.

During the conversation, the husband told the counselor about a neighbor of his who is a true bal chesed (does chesed). When somebody in the community died, leaving a wife and children, he undertook the financial burden and practically adopted the children so they would have a father figure.

After the story, the counselor said, “Do your ears hear what your mouth is saying? You just told me about the wonderful things that your neighbor does for these orphans, and you cannot stop marveling over his kindness. I’d like to ask you a question: If a person takes care of his own children, and sets aside time to help his wife, is he not a bal chesed?

“Don’t our Sages teach that the greatest mitzvah is to help those who are close to us, and that when a person has to choose between helping a relative or a non-relative, he is obligated to help his relative? If so, why are you so impressed with your neighbor and not impressed with yourself for being so devoted to your wife and children?... Just because they are your children, and their mother is your wife, are these not significant acts of chesed?”

The man understood the lesson, adopted this new mentality and his shalom bayis improved.

Rav Zilberstein concludes, “From this incident, I learned how skewed people’s attitude towards chesed can be. We know that charity begins at home, but do we realize that the greatest chesed a person can do is to be kind to his own family? Parents do hundreds of acts of chesed for their children each day, in the fulfillment of the mitzvah of loving others as you love yourself. These acts are considered mitzvos even though they are done for loved ones, whom we have a natural tendency to want to please.”

With that I leave you all with a good Shabbos!

This is a whole new world.

One of the first things we have learned is that our kosher options are very limited. For example, we have no butter.

The government runs its own kashrus organization, known as the Rabbanut. It’s no secret that the Rabbanut generally keeps a relatively lower standard of kashrus compared to other organizations. None of the Ultra Orthodox rely on it, and many of the Religious Zionists do not either. Instead, we use the Mehadrin kashrus organizations. There are several of them, some are relied on by all, and some are relied on by some and not others (ask your local rabbi). All agree though, that these Mehadrin organizations have a higher standard of kashrus. While Rabbanut is not considered treif, it’s still not relied upon.

So… that puts us in a pickle. In Jerusalem, with such a heavy religious population, getting mehadrin products is not a problem. Here, we are extremely limited on what we can buy. And just to make things extra fun, many products that are mehadrin in Jerusalem aren’t in the north, or aren’t even kosher. So, you have to be careful to check everything before you buy it.

On top of that, you have issues with fruits and vegetables.

In Eretz Yisroel, any produce grown here, must have trumah and maiser taken from it. In the time of the Beis HaMikdash, it was given to the Kohen and Levi. However, since we don’t have a Beis HaMikdash yet, we cannot give it do them. So we have to go through a procedure to “redeem” the holiness that is within the produce. In Jerusalem, every kosher store already has trumah and maiser taken from its produce before it’s sold, so you can buy it and eat it immediately. Here, with the exception of one major store that’s not in walking distance, and a small food store, which has limited produce, you have to take the trumah and maiser yourself before you eat it. I have my zucchinis ready to go in the kitchen. My first time I’m able to do the mitzvah!

Okay, I’m sure you’ll hear much more in the future, including my upcoming shopping trip to the local Druze village. For now… on to Torah!
“If a man married a wife” (Devarim 22:13)

Rav Yitzchok Zilberstein in his sefer “Aleinu L’Shabei’ach”, cites a story he heard from a marriage counselor. The counselor was dealing with a man who was clearly a devoted husband and father who did everything in his power to help his wife and children. However, he felt that his shalom bayis (peace in the house between husband and wife) was not so good. The counselor recognized that it was a lack of self-esteem on the husband’s part that was affecting the marriage.

During the conversation, the husband told the counselor about a neighbor of his who is a true bal chesed (does chesed). When somebody in the community died, leaving a wife and children, he undertook the financial burden and practically adopted the children so they would have a father figure.

After the story, the counselor said, “Do your ears hear what your mouth is saying? You just told me about the wonderful things that your neighbor does for these orphans, and you cannot stop marveling over his kindness. I’d like to ask you a question: If a person takes care of his own children, and sets aside time to help his wife, is he not a bal chesed?

“Don’t our Sages teach that the greatest mitzvah is to help those who are close to us, and that when a person has to choose between helping a relative or a non-relative, he is obligated to help his relative? If so, why are you so impressed with your neighbor and not impressed with yourself for being so devoted to your wife and children?... Just because they are your children, and their mother is your wife, are these not significant acts of chesed?”

The man understood the lesson, adopted this new mentality and his shalom bayis improved.

Rav Zilberstein concludes, “From this incident, I learned how skewed people’s attitude towards chesed can be. We know that charity begins at home, but do we realize that the greatest chesed a person can do is to be kind to his own family? Parents do hundreds of acts of chesed for their children each day, in the fulfillment of the mitzvah of loving others as you love yourself. These acts are considered mitzvos even though they are done for loved ones, whom we have a natural tendency to want to please.”

With that I leave you all with a good Shabbos!

Our neighborhood took a big loss this past week with the passing of Rav Moshe Adler.

I don't expect anybody to know his name. He wasn't a well known talmid chacham. He WAS a talmid chacham, but not well known.

Rav Adler just celebrated his 80th birthday two months ago. He was a "working man" in the US and a close student of Rav Yaakov Kamenitsky. He spent his later years stricken with cancer and other illnesses and when he decided to move to Israel, his doctors warned him that it would be a one way flight, since his body would not be able to handle the trip back.

Here was a man who was always taking a physical beating through illness, yet he didn't let it keep him down. I davened with him at the 6:30 am minyan, and he was there every day, after a 15 minute walk, at 5:50 am. If he wasn't there by 6:00 am, it meant he either davened at the earlier minyan, or he was too ill to make it at all. The only time I saw him come "late" was when he came at 6:15am, huffing and puffing and in a lot of pain.

Even though, most of his life was spent in the office, learning was the important thing and his main focus in life. To him, work was there to support his family and that was it. His avodas Hashem (serving Hashem) was what his life revolved around. When he finally came here, he began to learn with one of the more prestigious rabbeim of the community every day, so high were his skills.

It's a little chilling now. Every morning I would sit next to him and it was a source of inspiration. Every Shabbos, I would set up his seat with his chumash and siddur and put it back after davening, to make it easier on him. In return, he would say his morning brochos by me, so I could say 'amen' to them.

Before his burial, they brought his body by the shul where we said tehillim. In Israel, they don't put bodies in coffins; they're wrapped in their tallis, so you see the form laying there. It's pretty strange, and that's the last you see of the person. I guess the timing is right with Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur around the corner.

Well... if anybody needs a good example of what a Jew should be, he served it in the proper way. He pushed himself to the limits in all aspects in life, and for that, he earned the respect of the entire community.
"You shall surely send away (shaleiyach tishalach) the mother bird" (Devarim 22:7)

In this week's parsha we have the mitzvah of Shiluach HaKain, sending away the mother bird. When a mother bird is sitting on her eggs or chicks, it's a mitzvah to send her away and take possession of the eggs/chicks. When the mother bird flies away in fright and complains to Hashem, Hashem is reminded of the plight of the Jewish people who are also away from their home.

Recently we had some doves make a nest by us, and had the opportunity to do the mitzvah (yes, I used gloves, and they hatched and are off living a nice life).

The Gemara (Chullin 141a) points out the double wording of the word "send". We might think that we need to first send away the mother bird and have compassion on it, if you are going to use the eggs for your personal use. But, if you are doing it only for the mitzvah, you do not need to have such compassion. Hence the double wording. To stress the importance of first shooing away the bird, even if it's just for the mitzvah.

Rav Chaim Katz, the former Rosh Yeshiva of Telz, used this to point out the concept of thinking about others when doing a mitzvah.

Even when you are involved with a mitzvah, you are to keep in mind other people around you.

A few months ago, I saw a 'comic' in shul. For the first few frames, the main character was going from one yeshiva to another, trying to find a nice quiet place to learn. However, each place was packed with people and too loud for him. Finally, he found a place with people who were learning quietly. He settled himself down and began to learn in a very loud voice, disturbing everybody there.

A small example of what not to do.

Another one is unfortunately popular. And that deals with minyanim on planes. From everything that I have seen and heard, all the Gedolim have said that one should sit and daven by himself in his seat, so as not to disturb the others on the plan who might be sleeping or trying to use the washroom, etc...

However, as we have noted in last week's dvar torah, people don't always like to listen... so while they are being stringent in one "mitzvah", they are doing other sins.

I'm sure we can all think of such examples. Of course, sometimes a mitzvah might take precedence over other people's feelings, and sometimes not. We do not break Shabbos, for example, to go to some family event in order that Aunt Betty's feelings don't get hurt. By sitting and learning, we will know when this rule applies and when this does not. However, we see a clear lesson that we do need to keep in mind the feelings of other people, even for the sake of a mitzvah.

Have a great Shabbos!

I heard to interesting things about Rosh Hashanah that falls out on Shabbos, like it will in a few weeks.

The first is that Shabbos itself testifies on behalf of the person on Rosh Hashanah. How we treated Shabbos over the year will determine how she will testify for us.

The second, is that (this was in a sefer, but I forgot which one) on years that Rosh Hashanah falls out on Shabbos, they were either very good years or very bad years. Not so much in between. The reason is that every other year, we blow the shofar on Rosh Hashanah (the first day), but not so on Shabbos, when we cannot. Therefore, at that point we are missing certain ‘spiritual merits’. On such Rosh Hashanah’s, our davening can make up for such a lack of merits. If our davening is on a very high level, it will make up for it and bring a very good year, thanks to the very good davening. However, if we do not daven well, then not only do we lose thanks to a lack of the shofar, but we also lose thanks to the lack of good davening.

Hopefully, this Rosh Hashanah will harbour an unbelievably great year!
"A woman shall not wear the garments of a man, and a man shall not wear the dress of a woman, for it is an abomination of the Almighty, your G-d, all who do these things" (Devarim 22 5)

The Targum Yonoson states that the garments of a man include tzitzis and tefilin. Which is interesting, since according to him, a woman who wears a tallis and tefillin are transgressing a Torah prohibition.

Rav Chayim Shmuelevitz points to another lesson to learn from here.

Each individual has their own mission in this world. Each person was given certain abilities and disabilities that Hashem gave them to accomplish that mission.

I was recently speaking to a neighbor of mine. He just happens to be a genius. Even though he's just a year older than I, he has finished his first level of Rabbanut tests in Israel, which are rabbinic tests that are extremely difficult to learn for and take. Of course, he's going to continue more and more levels.

One night after maariv, I was yelling at him for his intelligence and how I don't like him because of it. He told me "not to worry", because HIS friend just finished going through the entire Talmud in depth.

It didn't make me feel any better.

And made me hate his friend.

However, there is no reason for me to be jealous of either one of them.

Obviously, I was not created to do the same things they have accomplished. G-d put me on earth for my specific mission, not to look at other people and see how they are doing.

An artillery officer cannot see exactly where his rounds are landing, nor see what type of effect he is having in the battle. Does it make sense that he should be jealous of the infantry officer who is up close and "doing something useful"? Of course not! Each soldier has his job and needs to be the best at it. By combining their best talents, they serve the entire team.

When every Jew stops focusing on other people's talents and abilities, and perfects their own innate talents, then the entire nation will gain.

Have a great Shabbos!

Interesting things happening here in Jerusalem. This time, it’s not from the Arabs.

Over the past two weeks, several of the major papers have written articles concerning a dangerous situation arising in the State of Israel: Religious Jews.

The population growth within the religious community is pretty darn high. Add to that all the religious Jews that move to Israel every year, and add even more to the fact that so many secular Israelis leave Israel, and you have a problem. More and more Jews who practice Judaism actually live in Jerusalem and are growing in other cities.

Well, it seems there are those in the secular camp are very worried about this. Especially in the media. You see, it’s a known fact that religious Jews don’t serve in the army, don’t pay taxes, don’t work, are completely supported by the government, lower real estate prices wherever they go, make their neighborhoods dirty, make neighborhoods poorer and less economically viable, are close minded, fanatical, and are all around yucky people.

At least this is according to the secular media and unfortunately many secular Israelis. With the exception to the army (which most ultra-Orthodox do not join), all of the other attacks are baseless. Ironically, the IDF has admitted several times that a vast majority of people who do not serve are secular…

But, when you have a war to wage, you need to do what you can.

Unfortunately this has caused other problems.

In the neighborhood of Kiryat Yovel, young religious couples (we’re not talking fanatics here) are moving in because of relatively “low” real estate prices. Many in the neighborhood (lower-class secular) have gone to city hall to try to stop them from moving in (Imagine Germany doing that and the uproar it would cause within the Jewish population in the US… Can you hear the uproar now that it’s happening to Jews in Israel? I can’t.)

Of course, that didn’t go anywhere. So, instead, vandals have been going around every day, including Shabbos, tearing down the city’s eiruvim (plural), which allows people to carry items, including children, outside their homes. Of course, this has caused a big problem for many people on Shabbos, and affecting thousands of religious Jews.

I find it ironic, that people who are so “open minded” can hate their fellow Jews so much, that they will do whatever they can to stop them from moving into the Holy City.

Well… the funny part is: they’re losing the population war, and it’s only a matter of time for them. Oh well!

On to Torah!
“When you wage war against your enemies…” (Devarim 21:10)

The pasuk has a strange twist in it. When a person goes to war, generally he goes to war against his enemies. Rarely does one go to war against his friends. It's just the way of the world.

The Moshgiach of the yeshiva, Rav Solomon, noted this interesting language and asked why the Torah had to specify "his enemy".

Rav Solomon noted that it's human nature to give excuses for his yetzer horah. It's easy to give reasons that one should sleep in, go to davening late, not learn, not give tzedakkah, etc...

In fact, my Rosh Yeshiva was present when the following story happened.

His roommate in yeshiva had a hard time waking up. Once, his rosh yeshivah came in to speak to him about this issue. After being told the importance of waking up and going to davening on time, with a straight face, this boy answered, "But I DO defeat the yetzer horah every day! It's a very long battle, but I DO defeat him and get out of bed!"

When one goes to war against his enemy, he puts all his energies into the battle and doesn’t let up one bit. He doesn’t show mercy and give excuses for the guy trying to kill him. Yet, we allow the Yetzer Horah to give us all the excuses he can when you let him talk. In short time, we realize that we’ve ended up befriending our enemy.

Before one can go into battle, he must know WHO he is battling. He must understand that he’s battling his enemy and not a friend. THAT, is the first order of battle against the Yetzer Horah. Once we’ve established that he is THE bad guy, the road to victory is a little bit smoother.

I’m enjoying learning the in-depth halachos of brachos (blessings).

It’s a generally accepted rule that if a person has a dessert which is not a mezonos (cakes, cookies, and other ‘floury’ products), even if he washed and had bread with his meal (which means he doesn’t say a bracha on any other food of the meal), he still has to make a new bracha on the dessert, since it’s not considered part of the meal.

For example, if you make a bracha on bread and have melon as an appetizer, you don’t make a new bracha, since the melon is part of the meal. If, however, you serve it as dessert, a new bracha is needed.

Another example: if you have toast with eggs and coffee for breakfast, you only make a bracha on the toast, since that will cover everything. If you decide to have a chocolate pudding, then you need to make a new bracha on that.

However, if you are living in Israel, things are different. Israel, for the most part, is a third-world country with nuclear weapons. It’s a known fact that Israel is behind the times of the rest of the world by 20 years in all areas (nuclear weapons being the exception). Nutrition is just one example. While in America chocolate pudding is considered a dessert, here, chocolate is actually a staple. A mother who sends her child out with a chocolate spread sandwich for lunch is considered normal. “Buddies”, or chocolate puddings, are actually considered part of a “complete breakfast”. So while an American child would recite a new bracha on the chocolate pudding, according to halacha, his Israeli counter-part would not.

Okay, on to more Torah!
"On the same day you shall give him his hire" (Devarim 24:15)

A wife of a friend of mine recently went through an interesting situation.

After finishing a project for a company that calls itself religious, she noticed that the paycheck that she was due never came. She decided email the owner (located in a certain city in America) and her project manager (located here).

Nobody replied to her emails.

So, she calls the secretary, who informs her that the checks were sent out. A week later, still nothing. So, she calls the secretary again: The checks have to be signed.

Uh-huh. They were sent last week, and now they have to be signed.

Needless to say, this went on for a while. This lasted for around two months from when her pay was due. The company lied to her and those with the power to do anything would not return her emails or phone calls. Needless to say, this began to eat away at her. She couldn't get solid sleep, she was constantly thinking about it, it was affected her mood and family life, etc. After all, this is a nice bit of money and she's living on an Israeli budget.

She then decided to write an email to the owner and project manager, telling them the situation from the perspective of the Torah, and her disgust at how she is being lied to and ignored.

No reply.

Finally, a week after that, she gets in contact with her project manager, and gets a promise to have it sent out the next day. Three days later, she received the checks. Nobody apologized to her nor offered any reasoning.

So, let's do the calculations.

For every single day that passed between when she was due her pay and when she received it, is counted as a single issur min haTorah (a sin of a Torah mitzvah). So, two months brings up 60 sins. Now, take all the nights she lost sleep because of it. Since the Torah considers stealing sleep as theft, you have additional issurim (sins). Add on every time the company lied to her. Now, finally, as icing on the cake, add on the pain and aggravation that this woman suffered through for two months.

And the best part: those responsible for all this have already dropped it from their minds. They could care less about this woman, and it never crossed their minds that they are obligated by the Torah to beg for her forgiveness.

So, come Rosh Hashanah / Yom Kippur... while they may be thinking that they are all nice and holy, this will be hanging over them.

A few lessons are to be learned from here.

1. Business is very tricky. We have an obligation to follow the Torah in business, and our Yetzer Horah doesn't want that. The Biur Halacha (231:1) cites a question posed in Tshuvas Dvar Shmuel. There, somebody asked him if it’s better to work in a kosher job and learn only part of the day, or receive money from somebody to learn full-time. The Dvar Shmuel replied that it wasn’t a question and that he should learn full-time. Part of his answers was: “It is better to receive a hundred gifts, and not transgress the sin of ‘do not steal’ once” (which can easily happen, if one is not careful). That’s how strong the ‘Do Not Steal’ rule is.

2. Hurting another person is very tricky. To these people, they didn't give one iota of care to the pain they are causing a family in Israel. They didn't think twice in what they were doing, nor do they have any idea that the pain that they caused these people, will ultimately come back to them.

So too, we must be very careful in our dealings with others, inside and outside of business. If we cause a person pain, we might not think much of it, but it can be too heavy for them to bear.

3. Learn the halachos of business! It should be obligatory on all who are going into it. Just as a doctor must go to medical school and a lawyer must go through law school before moving on to their professions, so too should the businessman learn the rules of business. One step, which I highly encourage people to do, is sign up for Chaim Levsky's "Money Matters" column that he writes once/twice a week. His archives can be found on Frum.org and you can sign up under 'Manage Account'.

May we all our income come through kosher ways and may we all have a great Shabbos!

As we all know, the poor-peaceful-Palestinians ™ are poor, peaceful, and repressed by the Evil, Scum Sucking, Oppressive, Apartheid, Joooosss ™, who wish to destroy all that is good. The world blames the Joooosss for the Palestinians being poor. The Jews pointed out that perhaps the corrupt Palestinian leadership and their fascination with buying expensive weapons might have something to do with it. Both are wrong. Where is all the money the Palestinians are receiving from the world?

Fireworks.

EVERY single night, EVERY single Arab village and neighborhood that surrounds us, lights off at least two tons of fireworks every night. I was told they do it for a week after a couple’s wedding to celebrate. Of course their definition of celebrating is: Kill / At Least Annoy the Evil, Scum Sucking, Oppressive, Apartheid, Joooosss.

Well… it’s working.

"You shall observe that which comes out of your lips, and do according to what you have vowed freely to Hashem your G-d, even that which you promised with your mouth" (Devarim 23:24)

This pasuk seems to be a little strange. First it states that one should "observe that which comes out of your lips" then ends with "even that which you promised with your mouth"

This seems a bit repetitive.

Rav Mordechai Rogov offers insight on to why the Torah needed to say both.

Many times, when a person takes a vow to do something, such as when he is in distress, he does so with a full heart. He has complete conviction that he will carry out whatever he vowed with enthusiasm.

Of course, as we all know, life doesn't work out like that. As time goes by, the amount of energy we put into fulfilling our commitment wanes.

In Tehillim (116:14), Dovid HaMelech says, "I will fulfill my vows to Hashem, now, in the presence of all His people"

Why did Dovid HaMelech need to declare that he was going to do it in front of all the people? The answer: by fulfilling his vows in public, he will have more enthusiasm when doing these mitzvos.

We are only a few weeks away from Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. It is the month of Elul, where we review our actions and deeds to see where and how we can improve. It is also common practice to take a commitment on oneself to work on during these days.

It's very important to keep the above lesson in mind. A person should choose something nice and small to work on. With that small mitzvah, he should try to retain the enthusiasm of doing the mitzvah throughout the month as he had when he first accepted it upon himself.

With that, I wish you all a great Shabbos!